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Having a baby is really hard! We’ve all heard that a million times before, right?  But what actually makes it hard?

You really don’t know until you face it yourself.

So, let’s lift up the curtain of this one and spill the tea!

 Here are the main points we’ll look into in more detail below:

• Baby’s personality
• Fussiness
• Baby struggles
• Lack of sleep
• Feeding
• Putting baby to sleep
• If no help is available
• No time for yourself anymore
• Missing your partner

Welcoming a baby to the family! The moment we’ve all been looking for our whole lives, right!?

Yes, absolutely!

But what about the whole “OMG, it’s really hard!”, “Wait till you see this, wait till you see that!”?

The rumours about the life with kids are revolving around you more and more, but no one actually shares what makes it so hard. What do they mean?

Well, let’s find out now! Or at least try to, as remember – every baby is different! This article is not meant to scare you. It’s meant just to prepare you! You might never experience some of these and you might be one of those lucky parents that were sent a literal angel! You never know!

So, buckle up and let’s begin!

BABY’S PERSONALITY

 

 

Starting here – your baby’s personality. You might’ve popped into this one before and it’s actually true! You can spot baby’s personality right from the beginning! Later on, they just, of course grow and develop more into the little person they will become, but you can see some hints right from the start.

Or, at least a few days after baby was born let’s say! We should give this little soul some time after all!

So, is your baby really calm or more impatient and fussy? Sleeping very well and independently in their cot right from the beginning? Or is he/she really clingy and very hard to put down?

There are babies that are ‘easier’ than others, but it’s only luck and we have a new little boss after all! Can’t complaint much – just follow the orders!

 

FUSINESS

 

As mentioned above, some little ones are way fussier than others. It might be due to some kind of discomfort they are experiencing or just generally they might be moodier.

This makes things really challenging and exhausting and it’s one of the top reasons why new parents find life way harder than pre-baby.

One day you are dreaming about those newborn days with your pink glasses on and the next you have a screaming, crying little baby monster at home!

Well, not so romantic as you might have thought!

 

BABY STRUGGLES

 

This leads us to the next point in the list – the struggles that baby might experience. Unfortunately, there isn’t much we can do here, but to support baby and give lots of hugs, as there are things the little angels just have to outgrow. Like colic, tummy pain / gas, reflux, strong startle reflex, teething… just to name a few.

But this is the raw, unpowdered reality and here we name things with their true names. So, hang in there mamma, this too shall pass!

 

LACK OF SLEEP

 

Anyone who’s welcomed a baby knows this feeling. You basically learn to go into ‘sleep mode’ while breastfeeding, sitting, walking, etc. as with time sleepless nights and tiredness just build up.

In the very beginning when we’ve just arrived home with the little love it’s still no biggie as the excitement is really keeping you fresh and awake. But rather sooner than later, you might just start wondering if you will ever sleep more than 1-2 hours in a row again.

And to encourage you here – yes, you will… sometimes it just takes a lot longer than you wished.

 

FEEDING

 

Moving on to the next point – the feeding. This is one of those things we just never knew might be a struggle. Like ever. But feeding your baby in those early days might become one of the biggest challenges, especially if breastfeeding.

Yes, you heard right! Breastfeeding is a tough job. And this is something people barely talk about.

Sometimes it is very painful and difficult until baby learns to latch properly, and the milk comes in, etc. It could be a huge challenge. Especially if baby has a tongue\lip tie.

If you are struggling when it comes to feeding, make sure to get baby’s latch checked.

 

PUTTING BABY TO SLEEP

 

Yup, you saw right. Putting your little munchkin to sleep could make things hard too!

Most new moms know all about wake windows, how long baby should be awake and alert, but when the time to actually put baby to sleep comes, the hassle begins!

Sometimes it takes a while to get to know the little human and what he/she enjoys. What calms him/her to avoid overtiredness.

There are babies that are able to fall asleep only if you rock them or move around while holding them close. And as soon as you decide to put them down, they instantly wake up. This could be very draining and frustrating at times.

Not to mention that if you manage to transfer baby to their bed, they might wake up like 20 minutes after that, while if they nap on you, they could sleep for hours.

This is very normal though and the time when they are so little flies by so quickly! So don’t worry too much and try to enjoy how much you are needed at this very moment! They will never be so little again.

 

IF NO HELP IS AVAILABLE

 

Being a parent is the hardest and most rewarding job in the world! But when it’s only (or mainly) you doing it all alone – all day every day… well then it could easily overwhelm you. The ‘Mom burnout’ is a real thing!  Taking care of the family, your home and rarely (but so important and needed!) yourself (even if it’s just a quick shower) is really time and energy consuming!

Still, try to take a moment now and then, even if it’s while feeding baby or running an errand, to connect with yourself and calm your mind. Play a nice song, put a lipstick on or just do something ‘the old you’ really enjoyed doing.  

 

This leads us to our final two points – NO TIME FOR YOU ANYMORE and MISSING YOU PARTNER

 

They go hand in hand as your ‘quite time’ either for yourself or as a couple drastically almost disappears. This could be really hard and make you feel all the emotions.

It is very normal to just miss the person you were before becoming a mom. Or to miss your time with your partner. Alone, just the two of you like before.

When you combine that with all the hormonal changes you go through, you might become a cocktail of emotions!

Try to remember that with time when baby grows a little bit, he/she starts to play more independently, and you could fit in a task or two then too.

This wraps up the top reasons why people say it’s so hard having a baby.

It really is different when you face it yourself rather than just read for it, but we all know you can do it!

You created a little person after all! And you both need all the love and support in the world!

So, get to know each other and try to enjoy even the hardest days as funny enough, you will probably miss them later!